Do you enjoy being alone? Or do you hate it? There is no right or wrong answer to this question. This is one of the many things that make this world an interesting place to live in. For we are all uniquely different, although some of us do share some similarities with each other.
Furthermore, you do not need to be a scientist, to know that human beings are social creatures. We are not meant to live in isolation. And the benefits to having fulfilling relationships with other human beings are undeniable. That notwithstanding, as aforementioned, we are all different, and need different degrees of socials interactions and isolation or alone time as the case may be. In order words, whether you are an introvert, extrovert, ambivert or omnivert, extroverted introvert , whatever terminology used to describe oneself. We all can benefit from some form of alone time every now and then. Granted however, that certain personality types require more alone time than others.
It must be stressed at this point, that being alone or enjoying quality alone time does not mean that a person is being anti-social, and it is definitely not a bad thing. Once a person begins to enjoy quality alone time, they are likely to experience self development growth.
So whether you hate being alone or enjoy being alone? There are definitely some advantages to it. Here are 11 benefits of enjoying quality alone time.
1. You will value your privacy a lot more
This is not to say that you will not value your privacy if you do not spent time alone. However, your privacy will be of more importance to you when when you are in the habit of spending time by yourself. You will be so aware of the information you PUT out into the world. Not just online but in respect to the people around you. People will only know what you let them know about you, which will save you from a whole lot of stress.
The thing is, privacy has a direct effect over the control over a person’s life. In the sense that, the more people know about you, the more control they can have over you. The more opinions they will have about you, and the more they will have to talk about. Ever heard the saying? Familiarity breeds contempt. Well it is true. Alone time and the appreciation of privacy helps one establish healthy boundaries with people. Be conscious and aware of yourself as a sovereign being, protect your space, your personal information and share what you choose and are comfortable sharing. Read more here: Why does privacy matter?
2. Recharge Your Depleted Energy
Being alone allows you the opportunity to recharge your batteries. That is, replenish your depleted energy. People usually expend a whole of energy when surrounded by other people. Energy is used up trying not to offend people, make them laugh, decipher their emotions, stroke their egos, or generally make people happy. Not forgetting all the others hassles that come along with social interactions with others. It really can leave a person drained and down right exhausted.
In other words, constantly being connected or around other people can be physically and mentally draining . This is where some much needed alone time can help you recharge your energy. By taking a break from the physically, emotionally and mentally taxing job of constant social interaction. However, what amounts to sufficient alone time to enable one recharge one’s batteries so to speak varies from person to person. Some people may need longer time or periods than others to recharge and vice versa. Read more here: Do you feel drained? Recharge your batteries!
3. Self Reflection
Alone time affords you the opportunity to focus on yourself and no one else. A time of self reflection for personal growth and development. A time to evaluate every aspect of your life, to see if things are going in the direction you would like. If not, it is a perfect time, free from distractions to come up with possible ways to head in the right direction of your choosing.
4. Alone time enables you to become more conscious and aware of your own emotions
When constantly in the company of other people, we sometimes absorb their feelings and emotions as our own, or just feel for them. This is especially the case when you are a highly sensitive person or an empath. Examples could include, feeling sad when around someone who is sad, and crying out of sympathy when someone is hurt, or when someone else cries etc.
You can also pick up stress from other people. All these can be a bit much if you do not take a break from being around people. To let go of emotions that are not yours, and just feel just your own emotions and no one else’s.
5. You begin to do more of the things that make you happy.
Spending time alone is a great way to care for one’s self, it gives you the freedom to do just what you want to do. This is can also help with stress relief. You get to take time away from others to do things just for yourself. Things that you enjoy doing that make you truly happy.
You can use your alone time anyway you see fit. Catch up on some much needed snooze, meditate, do some extra work, literally any thing that gives you joy. Because whether you realise it or not, when you are constantly in the presence of other people, you are consciously or unconsciously making compromises, even respect to fun activities. Sometimes you may not even get to do what you want to do, if that is not the popular choice of the people you are with. In essence time alone can make you a happier person.
6. You become more productive.
Time alone enables you plan your personal and work life better. It enables you to be more organised and focused on your goals. This is so because, consistently being in the presence of other people can be very distracting. It can cause you to procrastinate things that are of importance to you, which would thereby affect your productivity.
Time spent alone can be super productive as there would much fewer distractions. You could literally just put your head down and get as much work done as you require or as is required of you. Read more on putting your heart into everything you do.
7. You will actually enjoy the company of others more
When you enjoy being alone or you have had your quality alone time. It becomes more enjoyable to be in company of others, because for starter, you will not be energetically drained. You would have had your time alone to do you. To be your unfiltered self, to energise and be ready again, to be in the company of others. You spent time alone by yourself, you will also develop a greater appreciation for people and things you have in your life, and for yourself. gives you a greater appreciation for yourself.
But where you do not get time alone, a break for your self care and sanity. You may begin to resent the people around you and may even become quite an unpleasant company for them. Read more on great ways to show kindness.
8. You become independent.
Spending time alone and doing things by yourself will naturally lead you to becoming more independent and reliant on yourself. You would trust yourself more, and enjoy your own company. You would also enjoy the company of others more. However, you would no longer crave the company of other people like you did before. You would not be lonely when you are alone when you start to enjoy your alone time. Read more on ideas on what to do when stuck indoors by yourself.
9. You would get a much needed break from trying to make other people happy
This may arguably not apply to everybody. As some people may say, they really do not care, how their actions affect other people. But even at work for instance, you have to dress, act and talk a certain way. You act professionally, and try not offend your colleagues, subordinates and bosses.
This also falls under the category of keeping people happy and does take some effort and energy. Here a great work life balance is crucial. A person should not work all the time, but have some personal time as well, which should include some quality alone time.
In the same vein, for the majority of us, we try not to offend people and be respectful to all, in our everyday life, both young and old. But honestly speaking, being ‘politically correct’ and trying not to offend people can be very exhausting. Sometimes it would be nice to call certain people out on their BS and all that, but we do not, except perhaps when pushed to the wall.
It is therefore nice to have some alone time, where you do not have to worry about making someone else happy, as most relationships work when all parties are kept happy. This can be quite draining. However, with the help of some quality alone time you are better able to appreciate and enjoy the people in your life more.
10. You would not need to apologise for anything.
When you enjoying spending time by yourself, you would not need to apologise to anybody for anything. You would do things on your own terms, as there would be nobody around to get offended by anything. You would be at peace doing you. Your personal growth and development from spending time alone will also enable you to treat people as you would like to be treated. And you would more easily identify situations that can easily go sour and void them like a decease because your senses or intuition ta this point, would have become heightened.
11. You will no longer require validation or approval from other people
A lot of people usually like to run their ideas or thoughts past their family and friends before they make a decision. Therefore continuously seeking external validation or approval for the things that they do. Although, there is arguably nothing wrong with this. And of course, there are those cross road situations, where you might need a little help dissecting, all the possible course of actions, before taking a final stance. And that is perfectly fine.
But then again, a majority of the time, you are capable of making decisions for yourself, by yourself. Alone time helps you become so aware and in touch with yourself, that you know your values inside outside. You know what you want out of life as you would have had sufficient time to reflect on your life and all encounters that are of importance to you.
As a result, you would trust your instincts a whole lot more, and decision making would become more of an independent process for you. Except for those rare occasions now and then when you seek the opinions of others. Only this time, when you seek opinions it is not for validation or approval.