What constitutes a healthy, happy relationship differs from person to person. And of course no two relationships are exactly the same. People want different things out their relationships, and as long as the parties involved are open and honest with each other, that is definitely a step in the right direction. That being said, these tips are by no means exhaustive, as there is whole lot more that will be considered in Part 2 to this article. Here are:
8 Things you need to know for a healthy, happy and lasting relationship.
1. Both Parties Must Have Self Love.
To be happy in a relationship and have a happy relationship, you must first be happy with yourself. You must love yourself. For you cannot give what you do not have. Read more on the 11 benefits to enjoying quality alone time.
You cannot also expect someone else to be in charge of your happiness. It is too much of a burden for anyone to bear, highly unrealistic and unsustainable. Read more: 22 Simple ideas on how to love yourself
2. Make Your Significant Other A Priority.
With the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it is easy to get so overwhelmed. And feel like you do not have enough time in your day to accomplish all you need to get done, including making time for your significant other. However, to keep a relationship going, you would have to consciously make time, to let you partner know how important they are to you. Although, you may have other priorities such as children, bills and so on, your significant other is definitely also a priority. And you would have to let them know through your actions. For actions speak louder than words.
In other words, you would have to invest some time and energy for your partner. Schedule dates, and ensure you are having quality alone time to keep the fire burning in your relationship. And of course to enjoy each other’s company.
3. Give Loving Gestures to Your Significant Other
To maintain a happy relationship, give loving gestures to your significant other. Happiness and positive vibes is definitely contagious. When you are in a positive mindset, filled with love and happiness it is bound to rub off on your significant other. In order words, giving loving gesture to your partner will come more naturally to you when you are happy and in a good head space or mindset. You cannot act negatively when you are filled with love and positive vibes.
Furthermore, as aforementioned, actions really do speak louder than words. So loving gestures, like randomly buying flowers, little presents, sending love texts, or notes to your partner will go a long way to make them feel loved and thought of. Which generally helps to keep the relationship healthy, happy and long lasting.
4. There Must Be Mutual Respect.
For a relationship to keep on going, standing the test of time, there has got to be mutual respect between the couple. So what does it mean to respect your partner? To respect your significant other means that you have due regard for their feelings, wishes, and rights. Both partners would have to have regard for each other’s wants and needs, and take them into consideration when doing things. You would therefore not do something that would adversely affect your partner and vice versa.
5. Focus on the Positives for a Happy Relationship.
What makes a happy relationship is not how perfect it is, but rather how the partners involved handle challenges they encounter. As no person or relationship is 100 percent perfect. Even the best of the best relationships encounter challenges. So when going through a rough patch, to maintain a happy relationship it better to focus on the positives.
Focusing on the negatives would not help as much as it would the negative to fester. For instance, For instance if your partner is moody or is having a bad day and it is negatively impacting you. Try not to feed off that negative energy and give negative responses to your partner. But rather focus on the positive qualities of your partner. Remember that they are going through a temporary rough time and be as supportive as you can. Try also to focus on all the good times you share together.
Another example could be if your partner is messy. That can be very irritating, and put you in a bad head space especially if your partner shows no signs of changing. However, if you focus more on the good qualities of your partner. Such as, he or she is a great parent, cook, provider, companion etc. Then the fact that your partner is messy would become less relevant to you.
In order words, for a happy relationship. In the same way you would say a gratitude prayer or keep a gratitude journal to remind yourself of all the good, you have in your life. You could also remind yourself every now and then, of all the wonderful qualities of your partner. And why you got involved with them in the first place. This will definitely help to keep a relationship going, standing the test of time. Read more on the misconceptions about having a positive mindset.
6. There Must Be Mutual Loyalty and Trust.
You feel safe, happy and secure with your significant other, when you know you can count on them to have your back. When you trust them. Relationships tend to be more successful when each partner focuses on supporting the other. It is therefore important not to break trust in a relationship. Because when this happens, it can be very difficult and sometimes impossible to regain that broken trust.
So hypothetically speaking, if someone were to antagonise your partner. It should be only natural for you out of loyalty to your partner, to take your partner’s side and support them. If however, you think your partner is wrong, you ought to address your concerns to them in private and definitely not in front of an audience.
A relationship without mutual trust and loyalty is unfortunately heading down hill and drastically needs to be worked on. Sometimes with the help of a neutral third party. For online counselling you might be interested in checking out BetterHelp.
7. Pick Your Battles Wisely
To maintain a happy relationship, picking your battles wisely is crucial. Not everything has to be argued out to the very end. Some things you would honestly just have to let go off, in order to be able to still enjoy each other’s company. Perhaps the issue could be brought up calmly at a much later time, when both parties are not heated up.
Also, it is important that you keep your arguments with your partner private. Away from your children, family and friends. Things can get pretty messy when third parties get involved. Read more on how to pick your battles in a relationship.
8. Happy Relationships Take Work.
So put in the work. However, it takes two to tango. Both partners in a relationship need to put in some work to have a happy relationship. Each partner would have to compromise every now and then. That means doings things you may not want to do. Or that are not necessarily convenient at the time, just because it is important to your partner. And your partner would do same for you, when the tables are reversed.
To keep your relationship going, you would also need to have to put in that extra effort to calm down or hear out your partner’s concerns, even if that isn’t the easiest or most convenient thing to do in the moment.
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